MARRIAGE

The big 'M' word. Yes  i know everyone wants to get married someday and have that awesome wedding that will always linger in peoples minds and mouths since they keep talking about it. Marriage scares the crap out of some people. Others smile with the mention of word since they have already visualized  how their married lives will be like. I call such people the focused ones! These are the people who you ask how many kids they'll have, where they wana live and the type of husband and wife and they know all the answers to give.
 It's always assumed that every girl had a dream of how her wedding will be like as a child. I didn't and even if i did, i never recall what i dreamt about in the morning.
Anyway marriage is a big deal. When saying those vows in church or the beach or that garden where your wedding is happening  .....
‘I, becca, take you, XY
to be my husband,
to have and to hold
from this day forward;
for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
till death us do part'
i mean who are we kidding here? Not me of course. Once you are into the marriage and the honeymoon phase is gone problems start coming up. It's either your character or his character that you don't like. You discover some hidden traits that your lover never let you know they exist.
Lets not even get into the persona changes, i mean seeing the same person every day at home, in your bed, on the dinning table, in the bathroom damn that sounds boring.
 Don't you get tired of taking the same tea daily? Some days you wake up and you want hot chocolate, others you want black/white coffee and sometimes you just want a lot of tea leaves in your tea ..... like my mwaitu loves it.
Why lie it must get boring and sad that's why people cheat in marriages.
if you listen to Classic fm in the morning like i do, and with that i have realised its been long since i listened to people's problems. The women and men who call saying their problems on radio make marriage look pathetic. There was a time married women used to call and say how they have a husband who is rich, gives them everything but they don't  love them. Instead these women have boyfriends who they say they are in love with and tell them some things that they cannot tell their husbands.It was shocking to hear this on live radio with these ladies confessing how they cheat on their husbands. kama hupendi mtu si mtengane basi.  Another day the husbands were complaining of how their wives have become big yet they married them with skinny bodies. C'mon take her to the gym if you want her to be the trophy wife you liked.
The sad issue was when a man called saying he earns over 500000 and he only gives his wife 5000 to buy herself something like a nice  pair of shoes/dress. This led to various husbands contributing to the topic of giving wives pocket money and most cannot give their wives anything yet they expect them to look good 24/7 nkt! When you became one in church did you forget to say " i vow never give you any money'' because with that statement you would definitely get your 'wife to be' saying "I DO NOT".  
 The most saddening ones are the stories of wife battery. Every time i hear them i remember Paulina for those who did the set book 'coming to birth' by Marjory Oludhe Mcgoye or read it like me. I did ' the river between' woi never have ever read such a boring book. Moving on Paulina used to be beaten by martin even when she was pregnant and it obviously led to her miscarriage. There was a lady who called and said she was beaten up real bad she lost the child she was carrying. Jameni wanaume mbona kuwachapa wanawake? 
  Listening to these problems everyday on classic fm can make you hate marriages and never want to be involved in one. I however do not discourage listening to maina and king'angi because you get to know what people go through in married lives and it's good.
Marriages are hectic if you can bear all the problems that come with it then go ahead, if not stay single